She's always at least an hour late and I don't know how to deal with this. I really don't think this is how to treat a friend. Not only that, but when friend of hers turned up at her house whilst I was there, she spent half an hour with her at the front door and just left me sitting there on my own in her sitting room.
My friend continues to arrive late wherever we go out together. It's really getting on my nerves?secure browser
Well, does your friend have any idea of how her behaviour is making you feel? If not, perhaps now is the time to tell her.
It could be possible that she is incredibly insensitive and has no idea that what she is doing is making you feel undervalued. You must talk to her about this, and tell her that when she does these things you feel upset. Perhaps you should stress to her that it's her behaviour and not her personally that is distressing you.
if she cares about you she will not want to make you feel this way and will listen to what you have to say.
it does all sound a little rude and selfish to me, if she does not mend her ways, there are probably other people that you could spend your valuable time with.
Somebody who is your friend would never want to be the source of your unhappiness, if she doesn't take your feeling seriously then I think you have to question whether you have a real friend here or not? The choice is always yours, you do not have to spend your time with her if she continues to hurt you, but if i were you i would talk to her about it and at least give her a chance to make amends
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My friend continues to arrive late wherever we go out together. It's really getting on my nerves?home theater opera theater
Dont turn up and wen he comes late, well, well, well, he feels it!
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That's not very considerate. Start walking away or give her a taste of her own medicine. Show her how it feels. The most mature thing to do is have a heart to heart and explain how it makes you feel.
Sounds like a selfish friend. Tell her to come an hr before you want to go out, that way she can really be on time, without her knowing it. As for the waiting thing, you should really tell her. My best friend does that to me all the time, but after we talked, it got a lot better.
my friend used to do this so i started telling her thewrong meeting time.
for example if we were all meeting at 7 id tell her 6 and then just to prove the point id turn up at half past 7 she soon got the point!!!
either she doesn't like you, or , more likely, she is just one of those annoying late people...the best thing to do is make sure there isn't jut you two going out and just carry on without her if she is more than 10 minutes late....she'll soon wise up, and maybe you should have a life without being at her beck and call
doesnt sound a very good friend. but you could try inviting her to come where ever you go an hour early? then she would arive ontime. the other problem is a dilemma, you coudl try going to talk with her friend too, or just tell her when she does this you get bord and ask her why she doesnt invite you in. if she turns hostile, she not worth the hastle!
Well when you plan something with this friend just plan on meeting an hour earlier than what you really want to meet. That way when you get there at the time you really want to meet your friend will be there. As for the front door deal, tell her you thought it was rude or maybe just try doing it to her sometime.
arrange to meet an hour before you really want to meet, that way she'll always be on time
People that are perpetually late are very shallow individuals and oftentimes are only thinking about themselves. Be the adult here and explain to your friend that you do not appreciate being kept waiting and if this doesn't work then discontinue friendship !
if its a regular occuring thing, then obviously they cant be bothered, so if i were you, id pay more attention to your other mates, let him/her do all the running for a bit!!!
As a person who is habitually 15 minutes late to EVERYTHING I don't know that she's doing it to be hurtful to you. If she treats you like crap all the time and shows never shows any respect, then you should probably sit her down and have a talk. If she doesn't like it, then ditch her. Lots of friends out there just waiting to happen.
u shld tell her nt to do like this or jst gv a tont and say this to her.
ask why she keeps doing that,ask her if she even cares.
I had a mate like that, arrange to meet earlier and don't turn up.But she must be a good friend for this to have developed into a problem.her good points obviously outweigh her bad ones.You could try the ancient art of communication, tell her.
well you need to go pick her up or tell her you will meet her at the club or party you and her are going to. and it seem like she isn't a true friend. find someone else to go out with
I have a friend that is always late....and I mean all the time. And not just with me but even with her husband and family too. So we decided that when ever we are to go somewhere or if she and I make plans, then I lie to her about the time.....If we have to be somewhere at 9 then I will tell her the time is 8. That way we are on time or at least closer. Good Luck !!!!
Your friend is really bothering you a lot. She shows up late (at least 1 hour) and leaves you hanging while she is talking to another friend. This issue needs to be addressed by you. Talk to your friend and tell her the truth and nothing but the truth. She might not even realize that her being late and leaving you hanging is eating you up inside. Once you've addressed the issue with her, you'll feel so much better. I hope this helps. Good luck.
She is rude and selfish so the only way to combat that is to do like she does. Next time you have plans and she is late just dont answer the door. Later on tell her you couldn't wait for her anymore. So this way she will be inconvenienced driving over and she can see how it feels. Next time she leaves you sitting waiting for her just get up, grab your stuff and leave. Tell her you didn't come there to sit in her house alone.
Obviously, this person doesn't respect your friendship. Pull back a bit (don't make yourself so available) and see what hapens - you'll know what to do by your friends response to your distance.
The easiest way to deal with it is to ask her "why she thinks your time is so worthless??" - her response will probably be, that she is busy and you should be understanding. If she gets better - great, if she continues the behavior and you still want to keep the relationship try the following:
Make plans to meet at a certain time. If she is not there within 15 minutes of the planned time, then continue on without her and just have fun on your own or with other people. If she complains, tell her you waited, but needed to do other things as well.
just leave for what ever event you are going to sooner or later she will realize she has to go places alone because she is late.
well there are people that is always late, and that doesn't mean they don't care, but for the other things you say, sounds like she is not really your friend.
Try this, tell her you will see her at the mall (for example) and give her 15 minutes, then leave.
Or just tell her how you feel, honesty is always the best policy
She may think it fashionable to always be late to events. But it really is very rude in most instances. Tell her it can't be tolerated or else you'll have to make do with other, more thoughtful friends
get her to meet at yours 1 hour before your ready so she may turn up on time, as for her friend thing well that's just rude how good is this mate.
Turn up late at her house or meeting point - better still don't turn up at all - she'll soon get the messsage!
Next time you arrange to go out, give her 15mins grace.Tell her you will wait for 15mins and no more. Arrange to go with someone else as well. When she shows up late don't be there and dont answer the phone. Next time you talk to her brush it off like there wasn't a problem. Keep doing that until she realises that she will cease to have a social life with you until she bucks her ideas up.
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